Life Lessons for my Daughter Part 1

I realized that it's been awhile since I've been able to give an update how our little Grace is doing. I apologize about that! I know that many of you are still thinking about her often and praying for her recovery. For those of you who are new to the blog, in short, our 17 month old little girl had a rough first year. She's had multiple brain surgeries and complications and we questioned whether she would ever come home from the hospital. You can read more about her story in Grace's section of this blog.

Overall, Grace has shown amazing recovery since her last surgery 5 months ago! She surprises us with something new each day. She is still a bit behind with her motor skills because her left side was completely paralyzed after part of her brain was removed, but she has slowly gained that back. She is working with physical therapy every other week to work on her crawling and walking. It's hard sometimes, because I can sense her frustration. She is such a curious girl and wants to play, but has a hard time getting around, and needs a lot of assistance. I also can't help but feel bad that all the other kids her age are so advanced in their skill levels, and Grace is so behind, but then I am quickly reminded that other kids haven't had half of their brain removed. Overall, we are just so grateful that she is alive and well. She is now healthy, active, curious and such a wonderful, easy baby to take care of. She is talking now. Her first language is Shanghainese! We are also tapering her medications, so hopefully in the next few months she won't need to be on anymore medications!!

As I watch her grow everyday, I'm excited and scared. She is so small right now, but someday we will watch her walk into the world as an independent woman. At some point, she won't need us anymore. That time will come sooner than we know. Am I going to be able to teach her to be a good person? Is she going to be a Godly woman? Is she going to succeed in life and relationships? Will she be ready for this big world?

Do you guys watch Modern Family? (GREAT SHOW). There was this one episode where Phil Dunphy wrote a book of life's philosophies for his daughter. Most of them were pretty ridiculous, but I thought it would be wonderful to give Grace a few life lesson's once in awhile that I've learned over the years in this blog. Maybe she'll look back one day and remember them :) This also by the way, fits the May blog challenge Prompt Day #8

 Life lessons For Grace

You will meet a lot of people in life. Friends will come and friends will go. Some may even hurt you. Friends are the flowers in the garden of life, and I hope that you will be able to find ones that will encourage you to be a better person, support you, are loyal to you and will grow with you through life. I hope that you will recognize those who don't. Cherish your friends always, because God put them there to shape who you will grow up to be. 

Work your hardest in all that you do, and you will find success. Don't ever cheat. Don't cut corners. Be honest about your work and help those who struggle. Find help if you are struggling. Be proud of the work that you do and your efforts. Always find ways to improve, and understand what your limitations are. You are attempting to read a book in Chinese right now. This is probably not practical, I would encourage you to start with your ABC's first.

There will be times when you'll think Mom and Dad are complete idiots. We probably are, but remember that we are still your parents and we make decisions together not to harm you. Please be respectful to all your elders. Learn from them and appreciate them, despite how different your opinions may be. 

You are a miracle baby. You have beaten all odds, and for you to be alive and healthy right now is a testament of God's mercy, grace and love. You may go through times in your life wondering if anyone loves you. You may feel alone and that no one cares. Your family will always be here for you and praying for you, through the best of times and the worst of times. Please always remember that. 

Love,

Mommy